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A few short weeks ago, my husband and I celebrated our eight year anniversary. And while in some ways it’s hard to believe the eight years has already passed, in others it feels like he has just always been a part of my life. I guess the truth is that it’s supposed to feel like forever when you find “the one” and I can say without a doubt that I have. But just because I found him doesn’t mean I’ll ever forget what my life before him was like or stop celebrating the amazing relationship that we have. In fact now, as the parents of two children, it’s more important than ever to find time to connect with a romantic date night.
So why is finding time for us as a couple so important? Well, I guess I have to go back so that you can understand why his love is so important to me moving forward. Let’s rewind about nine years to a different city. I was a 26 year old single mom with a rambunctious (yet totally adorable) three year old boy. He was a 31 year old bachelor who had no idea what was about to hit him (ME!). After we both happened to join an online dating site due to the lack of romantic possibilities in our own town, I stumbled across his profile. Yes, mom, I did make the first move. I didn’t think it would go anywhere – we lived over two hours apart. I just thought he looked like he would be fun to talk to. But I guess it’s safe to say that sometimes life gives you exactly what you never knew you always needed.
We dated in his town. We dated in my town.
We even went through a short break up that left me baffled since for the first time in my life, I thought I had met someone I could not live without. Those of you who have had the feeling know exactly what I mean. Where for 26 years I had known who I was, I now felt like something was missing when he was not there. After much soul searching, long conversations about what this would mean for both of us and only six months as a couple, we did the unexpected. We married in a beautiful little chapel by the sea with family looking on.
Life was perfect……and completely crazy. In one beautiful day, we became a family. He became a dad (which we would later make legal) and life was complete. But needless to say, when a preschooler is part of the deal, you don’t get the traditional newlywed experience. Complicate that situation by the fact the said preschooler had been sleeping in his mama’s bed for almost four years (what can I say, he was always my cuddle bug), and it was clear that some very big changes were needed. So, I started dating my husband. Since our courtship had been so brief and in many ways we were still getting to know each other, we went out and spent time figuring out just who the other person was. Thankfully my mom and dad came up to visit often and would allow us to take date nights, even date weekends, which made those first few years ones where our connection really grew.
And then, as sometimes happens, our family expanded and shrunk in a very short time. Our second son was born and life was complete. But shortly after my father died and we found that our life as we knew it had changed. Gone were the date nights and weekends out and more often than not, any celebration we had included our children in some way (or waited until after they went to bed when we were so exhausted we could barely move). With life looking completely different, we had to find our new way to connect, which often included date nights at home. Whether it was watching a movie together or a marathon of our favorite shows, we feel into a lazy routine where although we were comfortable and completely in love, the romance was lacking.
I wish I could say we snapped out of this quickly but we got complacent. While there was still romance in our lives, we fell into the routine of life. So, with Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, I decided it was the perfect time to plan a little date night to help us reconnect as well as give us a way to show each other the things we need to feel loved in a unique and creative way!
Since I came to grips with the fact that my kids are ALWAYS around long ago, I knew that our romantic date night would need to take place after their bedtime. Then I set to work putting together the things that would make it memorable. Since we have been married long enough where we “think” we know what makes the other person feel loved, I decided we needed to spice things up with a Love Coupons Printable.
I printed out two copies of the love coupons, cut them out and used a hole puncher and Valentine’s themed ribbon to turn them into a booklet.
With step one done, I headed to Walmart to pick up K-Y® YOURS+MINE to pair with my love coupons for a spicy surprise! With it’s discreet packaging and a little something for both of us, this His and Hers special Couples Lubricants was the perfect addition to our date night.
Finally, since no romantic date night is complete without a little something sweet, I whipped up some decadent white chocolate covered strawberries!
This is one of my favorite treats for when we spend time together because it’s just absolutely delicious (and perfect to feed each other as well!). I simply washed my strawberries, melted one half cup of white chocolate and then rolled my strawberries in it. Immediately after dipping the strawberries in the chocolate I placed them on parchment paper and sprinkled them with candy hearts. And within 10 minutes we had a delicious treat that turned our evening into something really special!
I set up a picnic in our living room complete with the white chocolate covered strawberries and our favorite music. Then all that was left to do was wait for the kiddos to go to bed. Once they were safely asleep upstairs we were able to sit down for an at-home date night where we could talk, reconnect with each other and share the ways that the other one could make us feel loved.
Together we filled out our love coupon books, talking about the things that we needed more of. We laughed, we kissed and we remembered eight year’s worth of memories while dreaming of many more that are waiting to be made. And at the end of our date night, we both took our coupon book from the other person and held onto it so that on those days when things get too comfortable and we’re in need of feeling special, we can pull them out and redeem them. It was the perfect way to make our date night extra special!
And as our date night wrapped up, we felt connected again. In sync with each other. We were once again excited about continuing on our journey as husband and wife. We realized that no matter how busy our lives get, taking time for each other is absolutely necessary. And through our love coupons we made a new memory while ensuring that we have the tools to spice things up all year long!
And that night? Well, I went to bed saying “I feel loved!’ and I’m pretty sure he did too. For us, that was exactly what we needed to rekindle the romance and remember why we’re so completely blessed to spend every day of our lives together.
Is your relationship in need of a little romance? Most of us would have to say yes to that question. So do something about it today! For an easy way to reconnect with your spouse or significant other, spice up your Valentine’s Day with the K-Y® YOURS+MINE DATE NIGHT pack at Walmart! Right now, in honor of Valentine’s Day, the K-Y® DATE NIGHT deal includes 1 free meal for two people from PEACHDISH.com delivered to your door for an intimate night of cooking together, a $5 VUDU movie credit for you to stream right at home and the pleasure of K-Y® YOURS+MINE Couples Lubricants. That’s a $50 value and perfect for a date night in! Grab yours today and then pair it with your own love coupons using our Love Coupons Printable.
This fun way to make time for each other is sure to help you rediscover why you love to simply be together. And for more great ways to celebrate romance this Valentine’s Day, visit K-Y.com.
Tell me, how will you make your Valentine feel loved this year?