In my opinion, incredible dads don’t simply wake up one day and decide that they are going to be incredible. They work at it. They strive to be better. They try each and every day to live the lessons they want to teach their children. For some men, that journey starts in a delivery room as they watch their child come into the world. For others, it begins the day they meet a child who wants nothing more than to be loved. For my husband, the journey into fatherhood began a little over eleven years ago when he asked a single mom to marry him and a little boy to become his son. Having lived through this experience, I have a different perspective on fatherhood….one that is colored with memories and gratitude and love.
Watching my husband instantly become the dad that my oldest had longed for on that first day was amazing. Seeing how time has shaped him into a role model for both of my children has been life changing. It’s taught me so much about patience and love and destiny, all while my boys have been taught their own lessons. As I sat down and talked to my children in anticipation of Father’s Day, I couldn’t help but think back over the years and the lessons; the tears and the triumphs. Through it all, three things stood out to all of us. That’s why, in honor of my amazing husband I want to share with you Three Lessons Incredible Dads Should Teach Their Sons.
Now, before I jump into these lessons, I want to share a little more about my story with you. While my own dad is no longer with me, I had an amazing model of what a father should be when I met my husband. I knew that incredible dads are hardworking, selfless, patient and kind. I knew that they put their children before themselves and do everything that they can to ensure that their kids succeed in life. However, being a girl I had a very different relationship with my dad than my husband has with our sons. Truthfully, I didn’t know much about that relationship between a father and his sons and the life-altering lessons that need to be taught. But when I married my husband almost eleven years ago and he adopted my son shortly after, I began my journey to discovering that there is a bond between a father and his sons that is unbreakable.
For little boys, a dad is not just a parent. In many cases, little boys see their dads as larger than life, as an incredible dad. In their eyes, there is nothing that they can’t do and no fears that they can’t vanquish. Much like the father -son in the The Incredibles II movie, coming to theaters June 15th, boys see their dad as someone awesome; while those around him may see imperfections, for a boy his dad can do no wrong. This is the way that my oldest looked at his dad on that first day and no matter how old they get, in those moments when they need their advice or simple someone to talk to, both of my boys still turn to their father.
When they want to know how to do something, they go to their dad. When they have a question, he’s the first one they ask. Although my husband has taught his sons endless things over the years like how to throw a ball, how to change a tire and how to use power tools, when it comes down it, the three most important lessons he’s taught them are what makes him so incredible.
Lesson #1: Always Be Kind (Even When It’s Hard)
I guess in a lot of ways this goes back to the golden rule but it’s a lesson I’ve watched my husband model time and time again. I’ve seen my oldest son come home after being picked on and ask what to do. I’ve heard both my children share stories of disagreements and ask how they should react. And time and time again my husband has not only told them but showed them that they should always be kind…even when it’s hard. He’s been honest about his own struggles with co-workers and shared stories of when he was younger. And through it all, he’s encouraged both the boys to treat everyone in their lives with kindness even when they are not treated the same.
Lesson #2: Only You Can Determine Who You Will Become
In a day and age where it seems that everyone wants to say who you can and can’t be, I love that my incredible husband is teaching my boys that they are the masters of their destiny. He shows them daily that they can do anything and be anything both through his words and his actions. Both my boys have watched him go back to school and not only earn his bachelor’s degree but also his Master’s degree as he has fought to better life for all of us. There have been times he’s wanted to quit, I’m sure. But with his actions he has taught his sons that nobody else can say what you can do and who you will be and lived the lesson that they should dream big and never let anyone tell them that they can’t accomplish their wildest dreams.
Lesson #3: Do Everything in Life to the Best of Your Ability
While I could stop with the two lessons I’ve already shared and feel confident that my incredible husband has prepared our sons well for life, perhaps the most important lesson he has taught them is to do everything in life to the best of their ability. This lesson started the moment we got married and he became a father to our oldest son. From that first day, he strived to be the best dad possible and has succeeded in so many ways. Now, as the boys are getting older, he’s continuing these lessons as he teaches them how to become men.
He shows them daily that doing things half-way or not giving their all will not take them where they want to go in life. Instead, he encourages them to push harder, go the extra mile and always finish everything that they start. This has spilled into our own home as he’s taught them to clean better and to take care of the place that they live. Of course since he’s been an incredibly strong role model, it only makes sense that he would teach them to care for the things they have with incredibly effective Clorox Bleach and Clorox Disinfecting Wipes from Target.
Available in the household supplies section of Target Stores, these Clorox products have helped him teach our boys endless lessons about a variety of home improvement and cleaning projects around our home. Since Clorox Bleach always delivers an incredible clean when washing clothes and mitigating stains on a variety of surfaces, using it as he teaches our sons the value of hard work has just made sense!
As he’s both told and shown the boys that finishing a job the right way is what leads to success in life, he’s been able to model this lesson to them as he cleans up spills and stains around the house and even teaches them basic culinary cleaning skills with Clorox Disinfecting Wipes. While it seems like such a small lesson to teach, it’s one that’s making a big impact and helping the boys learn about more than simply cleaning up after themselves, although that’s an important lesson in itself.
In addition to showing them how to complete their chores around the house, he’s showing them the right way to do things so that when they are out on their own, they won’t have to rely on anyone else to keep their home functional and clean. He’s teaching them that while there are many ways to do any task, having the right tools like Clorox Bleach and Disinfecting Whips on hand can make the difference between doing a good job and a great job, just as the time and energy he has spent raising them has made a difference between him being a good dad and a great dad.
By simply taking the time and teaching both our boys that while effort matters, doing a job with the right tools can guarantee success, he’s continuing to build the foundation that every father should so that his sons can grow into amazing men.
While my husband may have come into mine and my oldest son’s life later that I wish he had, he’s been the most incredible role model and teacher and has shaped the lives of his sons in the way only and incredible dad can. While I’m sure he’ll continue to teach them many more lessons over the years, I’m so thankful that he’s taught them three incredible lessons that will serve them well throughout their lives.
With Father’s Day approaching, I encourage you to celebrate the incredible dad in your life and the lessons he’s taught just by being him! Whether it’s your own father or your children’s father, take a moment to tell him how great he is and be sure to treat him to a movie date to see Disney•Pixar’s Incredibles II! This fun, family movie that’s great for all ages is a wonderful way to show the special dad in your life that he’s your superhero!
Then, don’t forget to stock up on Clorox Cleaning products at Target so that no matter what life throws at your incredible dad, he has the cleaning supplies he needs to ensure that while life as a dad can be messy, the things around him can be incredibly clean.
Tell me, what makes the dad in your life incredible in your eyes?